tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6748977141263815474.post3032492016300638300..comments2024-03-29T15:14:47.676+08:00Comments on The Voice Within...: An Apology LetterBlue Lotushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14847081762013816131noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6748977141263815474.post-63819757933759723962011-08-28T18:14:55.403+08:002011-08-28T18:14:55.403+08:00Genuinely thought provoking.Genuinely thought provoking.klonopin 2 mghttp://www.efost2008.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6748977141263815474.post-4851685539933693492011-07-15T09:55:11.606+08:002011-07-15T09:55:11.606+08:00Awww.I want to be happy about it and not even for ...Awww.I want to be happy about it and not even for a minute look down at my child as an unwanted toy someone pushed into my lap.<br /><br />I missed all the posts and comments.You made my day Purba.Blue Lotushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14847081762013816131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6748977141263815474.post-29139241720017124662011-07-14T17:19:12.026+08:002011-07-14T17:19:12.026+08:00My friend had her first child at 40. Only after sh...My friend had her first child at 40. Only after she had lived life the way she wanted to do - like a nomad, a life without moorings. <br /><br />And now she has left it all behind her as she glows with motherhood. <br /><br />It is your life and nobody has the right to tell you what to do with it - not even you Mom.<br /><br />Motherhood is not a responsibility, it is an experience to be cherished.<br /><br />And we missed you too sweetheart :)Purbahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06345755953291104000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6748977141263815474.post-77839794348476987592011-07-11T09:54:18.022+08:002011-07-11T09:54:18.022+08:00@ maniac.hunter: +1 for that.It's my life and ...@ maniac.hunter: +1 for that.It's my life and just let it me live it by my rules.But parents need not necessarily agree :DBlue Lotushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14847081762013816131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6748977141263815474.post-18263164000507935272011-07-11T09:53:17.042+08:002011-07-11T09:53:17.042+08:00@Magic Eye:Thanks Deepak.I'll have fun.I misse...@Magic Eye:Thanks Deepak.I'll have fun.I missed your monochromes.<br />@Cindrella:Sometimes I know it's concern,most of the time I feel being pushed about.Thanks for dropping by.<br />@Richa:I would love to meet your mom.She seems quite cool.Even my mom had me within a year and I was a real pest.May be she wants a revenge. :DBlue Lotushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14847081762013816131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6748977141263815474.post-90491189508892634342011-07-11T09:49:15.986+08:002011-07-11T09:49:15.986+08:00@Tulika:+1 to you.Just make sure my mom and your m...@Tulika:+1 to you.Just make sure my mom and your mom does not read this post.<br />@Ritu:Your friend mortified her mom?!!Hats Off to her.I don't hate babies instead I love them.Honestly,I'm scared.It's a big responsibility and I'm just a bit,you know ;-).<br />I read your blog and I think it's really nice.<br />@Zephyr:That was sweet Akka.I missed all the fun here.My parents don't trust my judgements.I have made quite afew "good" ones. :DBlue Lotushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14847081762013816131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6748977141263815474.post-7572478981201859072011-07-11T09:42:41.137+08:002011-07-11T09:42:41.137+08:00@Red Handed:Well said,don't fall for the age p...@Red Handed:Well said,don't fall for the age pressure.Get a grip on your life before you jump into any commitment.<br />@Divya a.k.a Spaceman Spiff:The giggles part is the worst.I'm not even allowed to use the three letter word (s*x) in public,but then the baby has to come.Ironic.<br />@Nirvana:Spoke my mind.My Grandmom pestered my parents to have another child,they had refused saying,"This one is enough!".Blue Lotushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14847081762013816131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6748977141263815474.post-48889374222087506452011-07-11T09:28:56.851+08:002011-07-11T09:28:56.851+08:00Before I go missing again,Thanks a lot for being t...Before I go missing again,Thanks a lot for being there for me...Blue Lotushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14847081762013816131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6748977141263815474.post-77339484990007105202011-07-09T02:54:01.976+08:002011-07-09T02:54:01.976+08:00agree wid that.my life, MY rules :)agree wid that.my life, MY rules :)Madhav Mishrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05858567569471042261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6748977141263815474.post-308957920521062122011-07-07T23:03:39.993+08:002011-07-07T23:03:39.993+08:00Nice post echoing the minds of a lot of women out ...Nice post echoing the minds of a lot of women out there who want to still enjoy life!For me thankfully, it was the other way round..My mum who had me a year after marriage, forever pesters me to NOT have a baby soon and to enjoy myself while I can! OH well, I really must have given her a hard time!Richa Sonpatkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11448555945318773375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6748977141263815474.post-41870331056088683592011-07-07T20:45:09.756+08:002011-07-07T20:45:09.756+08:00Thats a nice read!! this so happens always! People...Thats a nice read!! this so happens always! People around are so much concerned about our lives and such important decisions of life!! We never get the breathing space! Once you are done with college then its the "get married" stage..then comes the "get pregnant" stage!! uff!! <br /><br />But after all at times its good though! the feeling that we have our close ones very much concerned about us :)<br /><br />Nice blog! :)Cindrellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01579637776006505715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6748977141263815474.post-45252034830717694622011-07-07T09:19:10.760+08:002011-07-07T09:19:10.760+08:00:) good to see you back, babies or no babies!
have...:) good to see you back, babies or no babies!<br />have fun!!magiceyehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17848851692951192508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6748977141263815474.post-23657516801166482492011-07-06T23:16:13.754+08:002011-07-06T23:16:13.754+08:00Welcome back Blue Lotus. Your blog is not the only...Welcome back Blue Lotus. Your blog is not the only one that missed you. Glad you had a wonderful time at home with your folks. My brood had come home too and I can understand the joy of reunion.<br /><br />Loved Rituparna's comment. I am sure you will manage just fine and do have a baby only when you are good and ready. My son and daughter-in-law waited for 5 years before they decided to have one and no, we didn't ask them anything, trusting their judgement.zephyrhttp://cybernag.innoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6748977141263815474.post-48787781442155929312011-07-06T23:01:18.735+08:002011-07-06T23:01:18.735+08:00I am new at Indiblogger and the first topic that I...I am new at Indiblogger and the first topic that I decided to read was in the 'Offbeat & Personal' section, and I began with the latest entry. That's how I found you...<br /><br />I completely agree with you and totally understand your mind and the reasons to live your life the way you do! Yes, motherhood is the toughest decision ever...having battled it myself I know it! A former colleague and a dear friend once told me how she battled this out with her mother. Her parents lived in Lucknow while she and her husband lived in Delhi and worked in two different corners of the city. After about 2 years of marriage, her mother started the customary 'reminder' calls that basically boiled down to baby making! After about a month or so, she decided to take the bull by its horns! So one fine evening, when her mother called up, and started her practiced monologue again, my friend snapped saying, "Okay Mom,you gotta hang up now! Husband's back and since you are the only one who wants a baby, I think I'll just take him to bed...I am pretty hot under the covers and I can't hold my temptation to have sex right now!! So be quick and finish what you have to say" The poor mother hung up in shock and never did she call up again with this agenda! :p <br /><br />I was really tempted to repeat the same trick...but didn't have to! ANd when I told my mom that I am pregnant, she laughed in glee saying, "Uhhh! What happened to the fantastic planning that you had done??" I had to eat my words...my own body had revolted against me! <br /><br />I don't want to make this sound like a sermon, and really don't expect you to follow my heed in any way! A woman has and must exercise her right to motherhood.This is one experience that changes everything about her and her life. If you are not ready for a kid, don't get into it...your own body,mind and heart will tell you when it is! My own pregnancy has changed me completely...and today even before the child is born I feel I was born for this...I hope and pray that every woman feels connected to this beautiful phase of her life! :) <br /><br />Loved reading your blog...keep writing!Rituparna Ghoshhttp://thefullninemonths.posterous.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6748977141263815474.post-42112313906054532342011-07-06T20:50:42.963+08:002011-07-06T20:50:42.963+08:00Oh I *so* understand....currently I am at the stag...Oh I *so* understand....currently I am at the stage of being pestered to get married. Your post gives me courage...I am not going to give in to the pressure...Tulika Vermahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15401674385189410785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6748977141263815474.post-49095960089539205242011-07-06T20:06:28.812+08:002011-07-06T20:06:28.812+08:00first, welcome back! Kid(s) is a huuuuuge decision...first, welcome back! Kid(s) is a huuuuuge decision. I mean, yes, the body clock is ticking and all that. But still, you will make a much better mom if you are ready for the changes that come with it. Believe me, been there done that! First it was marriage, then the first one, and NO it doesn't end there - till you have the next one. Right now its the "When are you going buy a house phase."<br /><br />Given a choice, ALL the random strangers you meet (especially if your roots are in a remote village in Kerala) would like to know everything from your ovulation cycle to your bank balance. <br /><br />My three step solution to the issue in hand:<br />1. Grin <br />2. Enjoy the hospitality <br />3. Get your ass outta there prontoNirvanahttp://www.lafemmenirvana.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6748977141263815474.post-6471760021987627602011-07-06T19:26:55.113+08:002011-07-06T19:26:55.113+08:00Ayyo! People have only this to do no? "Your d...Ayyo! People have only this to do no? "Your daughter got her period? She's a BIG girl now! *giggle*" "She twenty??!! Time to get her married!" "She's been married for two months and still hasn't conceived?? What ARE they doing in the bedroom?!" (No no, sex is just for reproduction. Not for any personal pleasure, apparently), "Her son is one year old no? When is she planning on her next??" <br /><br />Don't listen to anyone. It's your life, your body. Have a baby when you're ready to subject your body to that change and your life to a HUGE change. Having children is not just about getting pregnant, giving birth, and leaving them in the care of their grandparents. <br /><br />Welcome back!! :)Spaceman Spiffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05143505093943885418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6748977141263815474.post-32375041111074054972011-07-06T18:50:55.964+08:002011-07-06T18:50:55.964+08:00This age factor is a huge curse for us! I mean fir...This age factor is a huge curse for us! I mean first its ''you are getting old, get married! You are 24!''..nd then ''its been two years of marriage, you are 26..have kids''<br /><br />what about ''this is my life first''.<br />Having a baby is a huge step and it beings new life into ones family. Like u said, if the mother or the couple is unstable, the baby will have an ugly childhood.<br /><br />You have the right to decide!Red Handedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17062645716811851771noreply@blogger.com